So your son wants to play college football…

Welcome to the only blog by a single mom on this topic. I only know this because while I was going through the process with my son I looked everywhere for a guide. They don’t exist. So instead I was left asking for information from coaches and “friends” who usually had their own agenda when giving me advice. With that being said, I’m here to give all the tricks and tips to the process that I learned the hard way. I will do my best to tell you everything I learned and am still learning.

My name is Nicole and my son has just finished his first full year of college. He enrolled in January of 2018 and was highly recruited out of high school with 38 D-1 (division 1) full scholarship offers to play football. It all started with his first “offer” as a sophomore; And if your son is like mine he’s watched his older teammates get “offers” and talk to coaches for the last couple years and he’s ready for his turn. He’s watched the commitment videos on YouTube, he’s seen schools chosen out of “3 hats at the table”  and he’s ready for his chance. (If you have free time look up “commitment videos” on YouTube. They are pretty elaborate.)

Let me first explain what an “offer” is: Usually a college coach will contact your athlete’s high school coach (because they are not allowed to contact the athlete directly due to NCAA rules. We will get more in depth with this later) and extend a scholarship offer to your athlete. This is a very exciting time. However keep your cool Mom. I need you to have your Spidey senses on full alert as the offers start to roll in.

First things first: Get yourself a Twitter account. This is how you will keep abreast on all recruiting news. Follow any or all coaches, schools and recruits that you know of. This way you will get updated on whats going on with recruiting. This is especially helpful to keep track of how many commits in each position the school already has and how many they offer. How will you know who they offered? Trust me, Kids love to post their offers.

Keep in mind Twitter is not like Facebook or Instagram. Twitter is your new recruiting tool. Think of this as “All business”. No pics of the kids or your breakfast. This is solely to tweet your athlete’s Hudl link (Hudl is the site the athletes use to edit their highlights and send to coaches) keep up to date on schools and recruiting and to communicate with coaches through DM’s (Direct messages. Like messenger on Facebook) You, your athlete and his coach are his only promoters. It will be up to you guys to post his highlights and send them to coaches. This is how he will get exposure. Gone are the old days of sending out VHS tapes.

Second, get familiar with the NCAA rules on contact during recruiting. You will need to know the difference between a dead period (no contact), quiet period (no face to face contact), official visits, unofficial visits and “bump intos”. If your athlete breaks the rules he could risk losing his NCAA eligibility.

Third, STAY CALM. This is a huge time for you and your son. Take your time, do your research and enjoy the ride. The most important thing you can do right now is get prepared for the overwhelming time and attention the recruiting process takes. You want to make an informed decision and even then you still might not get it right. It’s all perfect, you and your athlete will learn and grow through this process. Everything is going to be fine.


I think I’ve given you enough research for our first encounter. Please comment or contact me with any and every question.

We single moms have to stick together and I’m here to help.





D-1: Division 1

Offer: Full scholarship offer

DM’s: Direct Message

HUDL: Site used to edit highlights.




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  1. Hi Nicole! I’m not a single mom, but I can definitely use some help, shortcuts and tips. My son is a senior this year and is a great student (3.4 gpa) and athlete. However, he is not currently being heavily recruited. He had an injury last year and missed his entire junior season – no film for last year. What can/should I be doing to ‘get him out there’? What should I definitely NOT be doing?


    1. Camps! Get him to some local camps. You don’t have to spend a ton of money or go too far. There will be recruiting sites at most camps and will report his results to sites like Rivals, and 24/7 sports (follow them on twitter). This way he’ll have legitimate stats at least. Take what film he has from senior year and edit it on Hudl and start sending it out on twitter. If he hasn’t taken SAT/ACT yet he should do that ASAP. Also don’t overlook D2 schools and NAIA schools. He could get a Full or partial scholarship possibly.
      DON’T STRESS. He is overthinking it enough. Everything will work out as it should.
      Good Luck,


  2. Thank you so much for writing these articles! This information really helped me understand all the lingo my son, and husband use during his recruiting process. I think I impressed both of them when I was able to give my opinion, and actually was educated on the subject. “ Mom, wait what?” “ How do YOU know about this stuff?” I love it! Also it is not just exclusively helpful for D1 recruits. D2 D3 and NAIA athletes really benefit from your articles. Really appreciate you taking the time for us other Moms!

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